Who Are You?


You have a body. But you are not your body.

You have thoughts. But you are not your thoughts.

You have emotions. But you are not your emotions.

You have a family. But you are not your family.

You have friends. But you are not your friends.

You  have a job. But you are not your job.

You have a bank account. But you are not your bank account.


For some of you, it will take years, maybe even a lifetime to unearth and discover the real you.   But don’t give up. This is your most ardent mission; your most sacred task.  Do not consult your external Self, your body, do not heed wisdom from your thoughts and beliefs, do not always trust your emotions for they can be in flux and in turmoil, do not look to your family or friends, do not judge your authentic Self by what you do, or how much money you make.  Your Authentic Self is not found in the stars or the deep sea.  It is found within–inside; that place that is only yours, that place called your SOUL.  What should we do once we find this place?

Love it. Accept it. Enmesh yourself in it’s glory. Celebrate it and let the JOY bubble to the surface and touch everyone around you.  Your SOUL is alive, on fire burning with possibility and potential.  It wants to play! It wants to learn! It wants to love! From the very beginning, it has always been about the journey, not the destination.  All experiences including the pain is worthwhile. It was all necessary—ingredients that made you YOU!  So wherever you are is fine.  Pick yourself up–and trust your inner guidance system. Go to your SOUL.

Two thousand years ago, Socrates declared to his students that the unexamined life is not worth living.  Plato brought Socratic wisdom to the world in his writings. What this old master was trying to teach his students is that if we don’t meet, know, and love our Authentic Self, our SOUL deteriorates. Life will have been a waste.  Another master, St. Augustine, Bishop of Hippo from 396 to 430, one of the Latin Fathers of the Church and perhaps the most significant Christian thinker after St. Paul said it this way: “Take care of your body as if you were going to live forever; and take care of your soul as if you were going to die tomorrow.” 

Why Men Need Therapy

I run men’s Intensive therapy weekends because I have met far too many men at my Couples Retreats who are brilliant but who just don’t have the necessary emotional intelligence to succeed at relationships.  Men’s brains are hard wired for action, not emotion.  Add to this the stigma of male vulnerability, and you have a lot of  men repressing their feelings, or worse, medicating themselves for depression or anxiety.  In order to cope with stress and with life’s messy problems, (aka “marriage”), men need to become more aware of their emotions and communicate them to their partners.  If you or a man you love answers “yes” to 3 or more of these questions, you/he would benefit greatly from my Wise Warrior Weekend.

  • Are you emotionally blocked making it difficult to have rewarding relationships?
  • Do you have difficulty sharing your feelings even with your spouse?
  • Are you quick to anger and frustration?
  • Have you suffered stress or burn-out in the past two years?
  • Do you suffer from depression, anxiety or mood disorders?
  • Are you suffering from a bad divorce or marriage break-down?
  • Have you been betrayed or cheated on?
  • Are you grieving a death or loss?
  • Do you have trouble sleeping?
  • Do you have a negative relationship with your parents and/or siblings?
  • Do you feel isolated, alone and disconnected from people?
  • Are you unhappy about your work and feel you need a career change?
  • Did you suffer abandonment as a child?
  • Were you raised by alcoholics or parents with other addictions?
  • Are you suffering with shame or guilt?

Best Advice for Couples: Elle Magazine Interview

ELLE MAGAZINE:  What are your top three pieces of love and dating advice based on your research and experience with couples?     GRACE:  1. Listen with Your Heart—Good communicators listen for feelings as well as facts. They naturally make people … [Continue reading]

Benefits of a Women’s Retreat

Women's Inner Faultline A lot of women at first glance seem to cope well with the demands of life. They’ve learned to juggle their many roles and responsibilities but what people don’t see is the fault line on the inside that puts pressure on … [Continue reading]

Why a Couple’s Retreat vs. Traditional Counselling

Traditional Therapy Only Goes So Far: There are many reasons why people choose a Couple's Retreat or marriage intensive over traditional talk therapy for marital issues. First of all, traditional therapy  (CBT cognitive behaviour therapy) is … [Continue reading]

The Sacred Marriage: Vulnerability & Courage in Modern Times

The following is the Introduction to my new book, The Sacred Marriage: Vulnerability & Courage in Modern Times Be drunk with Love, for Love is all that exists.  ----Rumi What is a Sacred Marriage?  It is a deep, loving romantic … [Continue reading]

7 Tips to Nurture Your Intuition

Thank you to all who attended my Goddess Club workshop this week. What a wonderful turnout and so much amazing ENERGY!! Everyone loved the topic of Intuition!  For years, I have had requests for my notes, or a synopsis of what was discussed at these … [Continue reading]

Let Your Emotions Flow Like a River

There are many therapies out there — different approaches aimed at helping people become more effective and less fearful. What I’ve learned is that good psychological health comes down to emotional energy and whether this energy inside you is … [Continue reading]

Redemption: Wipe the Slate Clean

My friend’s 90 year old father, Charlie is on his death bed.  He was a hard man in his younger days, bossy and aggressive, and my friend hated the way he treated her mother who died ten years earlier.  Still she confesses, “I massage him several … [Continue reading]

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